The end of the year is stressful for me. When I read about new beginnings and resolutions and people making all these great changes, I start to panic. I love the idea of a fresh start and a chance to make all those changes I want to make…. But the perfectionist in me freezes. Because I want it to be perfect.
I can’t change our eating habits until I find the perfect meal plan/system.
I can’t change my messy and cluttered house until I have the right organization/space.
I can’t start exercising until I find the best time/place/routine.
I can’t start up good habits until I break the bad habits, but I can’t stop the bad habits without having good habits in place.
I can’t… I can’t…. I can’t…..
So I don’t. And every year is the same. Lots of ideas and intentions. No plan or follow through. The same traps. The same bad attitudes. Nothing changes. Then the guilt of not being good enough/strong enough/fill-in-the-blank enough takes over.
It’s a vicious cycle. I am really good at setting myself up to fail. Awesome.
But I just recently read something. Something that made sense. Something that a perfectionist like me could actually implement. It’s called Mini Habits. Basically, instead of creating all these lofty goals of perfection, you make a mini habit that you can establish because it’s almost ridiculous. So ridiculous that you’d almost be embarrassed to share it with others. His example is to do one push-up a day. The theory is the mini habits lead to bigger changes in habits. And, most importantly for me, mini habits don’t really leave much room for failure.
“Mini habits allow you to succeed even on your worst day.” -Stephen Guise
THAT is exactly the kind of game plan I need. One that I can’t screw up.
So I’m going to come up with some mini habits that will seem ridiculous, but will hopefully lead me closer to those loftier changes and goals. It’s similar to the idea of breaking the large goals into baby steps, but for some reason this resonates even more with me. I’ve tried the baby step thing. You know, eating an elephant one bite at a time? The problem is I see the big picture – the ginormous elephant – more than the little bites, I get overwhelmed, and I give up without even starting. Or I start, slip up after a week or two, decide that since I couldn’t do it right it’s not worth doing it at all, and give up. But this seems different. This seems doable, even for me. This Mini Habits method makes it virtually impossible to give up. Virtually impossible to fail.
What do you say? If this works for me, maybe this can work for you, too?
(Nope, this is not a sponsored post. I just liked what I read and wanted to share it with you!)